Bungee Wall - my metaphor for yo-yo dieting

I went through a process called 'Clean Language' with myself the other day. It is a way of creating a picture/metaphor of what is and what I would like. Doing it with myself is not that easy as having somebody else asking the questions but I came up with a great metaphor for my yo-yo weight loss experience.

I imagined one of those bungee walls where you are attached to a strong rubber band and are really excited the first time you get on it. At the end of the line, there is that dress, that look, that image I want to achieve when I have lost all the weight.

And off I go..... . Euphorically I start moving forward. The bouncy castle kind of surface is wobbly but the bungee is not stretched yet and I move forward without too many problems. Lots and LOTS of people are doing the same. Everybody has dreams and hopes to arrive at the end and claim the coveted prize of the perfect look/feel.
It gets a little harder but not impossible, some start falling down already and slight back of those some get up and move forward again and some just shake their heads and move away.

I am still there determined, but it is getting harder the further I go forward. My thoughts are not helping, it is getting harder. Outside the bungee wall people seem to be enjoying themselves effortlessly and I have to work so bloody hard.
And it is getting harder I am not only struggling with the bungee cord but with the thoughts that are holding me back.

But I have made quite some progress and my thoughts are telling me I deserve a rest. I think I can just sit down at the point I have got to and stay there. I am strong enough to keep the bungee cord in the same place. Not true......... I am starting to slight back and can not seem to find enough grip to stop the slight back. The bungee cord reverses the energy and rushes me back to not only the beginning but shoots me through the wall a little bit further back then when I had started. I feel powerless and dejected until the day I find the strength to start the whole process again.

Doing the same thing over and over again is a form of madness of course. But that is what I and so many other people do when we are dieting.

I would like to replace that picture with something better. Dragging on a bungee cord is no fun and kind of impossible in the long run. That is what I will work on this week.

Thinking about not being goal orientated

I believe that the journey is more important than the arriving. I use that idea in all my businees goals. It is about doing the right thing because I can only influence the moment I am in.

A lot of successful poker players work with this concept too. Because there is a certain amount of chance involved in this game , they only judge themselves on having made the right move not the outcome. This means that even when they lose a hand or a game or money, they will be ok with it if they did the right thing. They know that if they do the right thing consistantly over a long period of time, they will win consistantly.

So why can I no apply that to losing weight, it seems only the result matters to me. Sod doing the right thing, I just want to get there and then forget about it. But that is not how it works - is it.

The only way to be successful at losing weight AND, more importantly, keeping it off after is to do the right thing consistantly day in, day out. And really enjoying the process / the journy! How fab would I feel every evening if I believed that whatever the result, that I have done/ate/drank/thought the right thing for myself.

I am starting to realise that that is the key to getting off the Diet roundabout.

Goals are the lighthouses to keep my on the right way during my journey. But it is the step I take right now that matters.

Concepts like 'I will start my diet next Monday after pigging out on my birthday', getting frustrated with plateaus, constanly weighing myself simply fall away.

The question is: What is the next small step I am able to take right now to take me towards my goal.